How Changing Your Behavior will Change Your Life

Many times in life, such moments come when you find yourself stuck in a situation where you can’t figure out how to move ahead. It could be anything; relationships, family, education, profession, or household. People endeavor to make the circumstances work for them. Unfortunately, real-life matters are not that simple. You resolve one thing while the other gets entangled. Instead of feeling helpless, self-pitied, or blaming others, you can try a different mindset. Maybe, it’s not others but yourself that you need to work on. Some minor changes in your attitude or thinking pattern could yield an entirely new perspective of the world around you. Are you muddled? Don’t worry! This is how you can do it.

1. Focus On Your Strengths

Ask yourself the question! What impact on my life do I expect to have after making a behavioral modification? The answer could be a better relationship, promotions, adjustability, educational or financial success, and many other similar things. Think in a broader sense. Positive psychology states that individuals should be able to value their past experiences, be optimistic towards the future, and be able to live in the present to its best. You cannot acquire this mindset unless you focus on your strengths and embrace your weaknesses. Never miss any opportunity to nourish your positive behaviors. A supportive and progressive environment facilitates your behavior change journey. You cannot fix your every weakness; you just push them back in the attic. Just like a craftsman who uses his best tools to create a masterpiece. He does not throw his old blunt equipment, using them occasionally when required.

2. Choose Your Community

Every human desire to live in a community having the potential of growth and connection with others. People around you play an active role in shaping your behavior. Your social network inculcates in you a sense of achievement, competence, autonomy, and connectedness. They can either motivate constructively or lower your morale or self-esteem. Now that you have realized the influence exerted by the community in modifying your behavior reevaluate your community. Are the people around you fussy, nasty, expert at finding faults, and full of criticism or negativity? Are you sick of futile conversations?

Such a hostile community would never nourish positive behaviors; rather, it would suppress them. As a human, you have the complete liberty to choose a group of peers that make a friendly community enabling you to exhibit your best self.

3. Be Empathetic

“We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.” W.S Churchill

Empathy is the trait that enables you to view things from another person’s perspective. You are not performing any constructive role for others if you are self-indulged in personal emotions, interests, and problems only. Every person is fighting their own battle. Respect their opinion, and it will positively influence your life. This is how the cycle of life goes on.

4. Appreciate Your Achievements

Changing behavior is somewhat daunting and discomforting, and maintaining it is miles difficult. Appreciate and reward yourself for every minor improvement you make in this journey. It is unwise to expect a drastic transformation. Select one behavior or habit to work on and give it a reasonable time. Set small goals rather than doing nothing at all. Make some changes in your environment that are helpful for behavior modification. For example, if you want to improve your concentration on work, remove everything from your workplace that distracts you.

Conclusion

No individual is flawless. If you suffer due to some behavior, you have full authority to improve it for your own sake. However, it requires diligent and consistent effort. Once you overcome it, your life would be much easier.